Believe it or not, therapists also experience the problems of their patients – anxiety, bad moods, and negative thoughts. Their situation even worsens by sucking all the negative energy brought about by being the emotional punching bags of their clients. So, what do these advice-givers do to keep themselves happy? Listed below are some of their go-to moves. Maybe you can pick up some of them and apply it in your daily life.
The main obstacle to happiness is that we fail to study the nature of the mind. The Dalai Lama described wisdom, simply, as an understanding of how the mind works. — Donna Rockwell, Psy.D.
“If I’m getting down or feeling anxious, I’ll make a list of things that I’m grateful for. It flips my mindset and keeps me from ruminating on stressful things, or from focusing on the negative. Plus, it’s a big mood lifter,” shares Kasi Howard, PsyD, a San Antonio-based therapist.
Studies show that those individuals who express their gratitude have a lower risk of depression and are capable of sleeping more comfortable than those who do not.
Different people have their respective attacks on this strategy. Some carry a notebook all the time so they can write down their experiences real-time while others prefer to have this notebook placed on the bedside table so that they can jot down their notes before sleeping. Whatever situation you prefer, make sure to try this gratitude challenge as soon as possible.
Do The 30-Second Rule
If you are getting overwhelmed because of an unfinished task or conflict, there is a significant possibility that this will sabotage your mood. You can start addressing this by trying to complete a part of it in just 30 seconds.
For example, if you are starting to stress out with piles of paperwork on your desk, you can put the 30-second rule into effect immediately. While you are talking to your co-worker on the phone, you may start categorizing the papers, stapling them, and filing them in the cabinet.
Some people see this as something ridiculous. However, other people testified that there is an improvement in their mood every time they do this.
Sweat It Out
Exercising is also a proven happiness-booster. Scientific studies back this claim. Any exercise causes a massive spike in the adrenaline level throughout the whole body, which is then followed by a release of endorphins, a mood-boosting hormone.
“I make it a point to get fresh air and incorporate movement into every day. Sometimes this means a yoga or fitness class, but often it’s just a morning hike with my pup or an afternoon walk around the neighborhood during the free hour,” shares Kathleen Dahlen DeVos, a San Francisco based psychotherapist.
Even small amounts of exercise contribute to the betterment of the body. One recent study found out that physical activities which are relatively lighter are associated with a more significant mental and emotional benefit compared to intense exercise.
To be able to recognize and separate from destructive voices, you must first recognize that many thoughts you regard as your own point of view may not really be representative of your true self. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
Own A Mantra
Some therapists create their self-compassion mantra. These mantras are an easy-to-memorize collection of phrases which can the person can repeat every time they feel down. These also help create mindfulness within themselves, especially if they are in stressful situations.
Kathleen Dahlen DeVos recommends collecting sets of mantras from the internet where you can choose the ones which you can relate to the most. Just say it out loud the next time you need a compassion boost. This technique will most likely make you feel better.
Connect With Others
“I spend a little quiet time with my husband every day talking about ‘us.’ Doing so keeps our relationship strong, and that makes me happy,” says Health’s contributing psychology editor, Gail Saltz, MD.
Connecting with others, may it be friends or family, can contribute to happiness. Being open to your loved ones will make you emotionally more comfortable and at peace. In a study by the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships in 2014, researchers found out that wives who think that their husbands are not expressive enough reported lower marriage quality. This kind of problem in the household affects their respective happiness meter.
From the study above, it is safe to say that communication is a vital key in relationships. So go ahead, talk to your loved ones, and express yourself.
Pet owners, and particularly dog owners, felt more positive about their neighborhoods than non-pet owners. — Hal Herzog Ph.D.
Play With A Furry Friend
Pet owners are known to live longer. Most of them contribute this to the calming and uplifting effect of spending time with a cat, dog, or any other animal. Experts also say that our furry friends know whenever their owners are feeling down, and these animals have the instinct to brighten everyone’s mood.
Remember, our therapists are people too. The things we experience are no different from what they experience. Hence, if they say that these six strategies help them feel happier with their lives, then it is best to take these things by heart and apply it in your daily life.