Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce, according to the American Psychological Association.— Sean M. Horan Ph.D.
Being in a relationship that suddenly ends can be difficult on your part. Even if the relationship has already fallen apart for a long time, you still could not believe that everything is going to hurt a lot. Because of this, it is imperative on your part to learn the different ways on how you can handle the situation. As much as possible, make sure that you keep yourself together at this challenging moment of your life. Do not fret because things are going to get better as long as you know the right things to do.
In this article, we are going to teach you the different ways on how to be happy after going through a painful breakup. These are the tips or techniques that you must remember:
Keep Yourself Away From Social Media
As much as possible, find time to isolate yourself even for a little while. If you are the kind of person who easily gets affected with what goes around you, then be sure to stay away from using social media. Otherwise, you will only end up encountering problems and issues with your ex-lover. Take note that there is a high tendency or possibility that you may see your former boyfriend happy with his life without you. It can hurt a lot, especially if you can see him going out with his buddies or dating a new one. Avoiding the use of Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram can help you in protecting yourself from potential hurt.
Remember it takes courage to let go of the familiar, even when the familiar isn’t working or causes you pain. Think of divorce as a transition to the next phase of your life – one to which you’ll bring the benefit of your experience. — Tina Gilbertson LPC, BC-TMH
Stop The Blame Game
Take note that you need to learn the significance of forgiving yourself and the other person for the failure of the relationship. Stop blaming your partner for what happened to your union. If he did something in the past that caused you pain, be sure to forgive him for that. Do not wait for his apology before you let go of your hatred for him. At the same time, never keep a grudge because you keep on insisting that your former lover causes the breakup entirely. Instill in your mind that the moment you let this go, you can become better when it comes to moving on.
Engage In New Activities
Now is the best time to go out there and keep yourself busy with new things. For sure, there is always that one activity that you have always wanted to try since you were young. Give yourself a chance to experience it and enjoy it to the fullest. At the same time, you can also engage in stuff that you are passionate about. For example, give back to those who are in need. You can organize a charity or donation drive for the sole purpose of reaching out to a particular beneficiary. It is best if you are going to do this with your set of friends so that you can get the help that you need.
Participating in a movement or being part of someone else’s passion may connect you to people with an intention. Your goal is to feel like you’re part of something, and this could be anything that touches your heart or inspires you. — Andra Brosh, PhD
Stop stressing yourself out because there is always something that you can do to let the pain go. You must be committed to saving yourself after a breakup.