I was watching a video uploaded on Facebook yesterday and it was from the Golden Globes. Apparently, they decided to grantMs. Oprah Winfrey the Cecil B. Demille Award, and it was given to her by another powerful woman influencer, Reese Witherspoon.
Anyway, Oprah being Oprah, she knew how to speak in front of people that would arouse inspiration and motivation. She started her speech about a poor girl being raised by a single mom (of course, it was her) who watched Sidney Poitier, an African-American man, win the same award that she received just a few moments ago. They were the only African-American people to ever receive such an honor, and to me, that’s a great deal of achievement.
She went on to talk about how things had changed from years ago when African-American people especially their women were disrespected, belittled and harmed. People who bring hurt to colored individuals were not punished. She’s just saying, from what I have understood, that times have changed now and that things can be better if everyone is willing to fix their attitude.
When she said these words: “A new day is on the horizon” – I knew. I had to make this article and talk about self-improvement by fixing your attitude.
How To Fix Your Attitude
1. When You Wake Up In The Morning, Envision What You’re Going To Do For The Day And Act With A Purpose Or Reason
Oprah said that “A new day is on the horizon” and it means that every day, you get a clean slate. You can formulate your day in any way you want, and that’s why you can always choose to go about it with a valid purpose. What is your goal? Will your actions today contribute to the achievement of your goal? Think about it.
Take a deep breath, scan your body to find where you can soften or stretch the muscles that are tense. Make this a practice, you’ll be surprised how much this can help. — Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
2. Challenge Yourself And Attempt To Go Out Of Your Comfort Zone Every Single Day
When you see today as a new day, as Oprah has said, you have to get out of that boring, no-goals and monotonous life. There is nothing good about doing the same thing over and over again without stretching your limits. Try to step up a notch, and you will see your capabilities.
3. Do, Move And Take Action Without Much Expectation Of Results
Just do what you can every day. Be at your best and try new things if it meant a chance for self-improvement. There is a new day coming tomorrow and if your action today will merit a positive response, at least you can say to yourself – I did that. Oprah wanted to impart that taking action without obsessing on the target will make you a contented individual.
4. Nobody Is Perfect – It’s Ok To Make Mistakes As Long As You Learn From It
There will be times when you meet obstacles, and it can set you back. Don’t worry about it. As long as you’ve learned from your mistakes, you can re-do it for tomorrow. “A new day is on the horizon!”
Breaking the patterns of self-sabotage that we engage in gives us the best chance of achieving the things we really want in life. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
5. Surround yourself with people with a positive attitude
It’s as simple as that. If you want to improve yourself, fix your attitude and exude positivity, then, the people around you must act that way, as well. Don’t stick with negative and toxic individuals. They will bring you down and will make you doubt yourself. You are much better than that.
6. Laugh At Yourself
Don’t be grumpy! Instead, dare to laugh at yourself. Don’t take life too seriously.
7. Forgive Others For Their Mistakes
As already mentioned, nobody is perfect. You’ll just have to accept that from time to time; people will make mistakes. Forgive them and learn to let it go. If they can’t do something that you’re good at, try to look at their talents, skills, and abilities. You’ll learn to appreciate them more and be a happier person.
8. Learn How To Express Your Gratitude
Thank you – these two words are magical and can move mountains. A pure expression of gratitude can make another person feel right, and if you’re sending out good vibes, everything around you will be on a positive note. Do it. Live it. Be it.
Thank you, Oprah, for being a ray of sunshine every time I listen to you speak. You are a gift to this world, and because of you, I have learned some incredible things about self-improvement and attitude fixing.
Re-grounding yourself can be as easy as feeling your body sitting, standing, or moving, eating something mindfully, looking out a window and really seeing what meets your gaze, taking a walk, calling a friend, listening to music, writing in your journal, or anything else that uses some of that irritable energy. — Nicole S. Urdang, M.S., NCC, DHM